Monday, September 8, 2008

Autumn is in the Air

A time for changes.... a time for transitions.

The warmth of summer nights has given way to cooler September air.
Our sun's shining warmth is waning........glowing red in the western sky each evening, like embers from a fireplace. Then dropping out of sight, as dusk creeps up on us....... earlier and earlier.

Change is in the air.
My blog has changed.
I have not posted about Hubby for a while.
This is "supposed" to be a blog about Caregiving.
But it has changed, as I have.

I have learned - so much! So much from my blogging I "listen" to each point of view, each perspective........ rejoicing in your happiness; shedding tears for your pain .........all part of the human growth experience.

I can't wait to peek into the lives and gardens of my blogger friends. Can't wait to post pics of my grandkids or my garden.
And yet there are days when I don't want to go near the computer. Enough! My neck is sore from hunching over my laptop. My fingers are cramped from writing. My back is sore - well, it's always sore...

And how am I going to live "real" life, if I'm always at the computer? Computer life is not real life.
But the friends I've made are real.

How would I ever explain that to my mother, for instance, who never even used a computer. How would I explain that I've made bonds, friendship bonds with people I've never met?

I am listening......... to changes in the air from some of my blogger friends. I can "hear" that their priorities are changing. Their lives are changing.........transitioning........... as we are with the seasons.

I am learning the value in Letting go.
Letting go of reading some excellent blogs. There just isn't time.

Letting go of really good posts. In the beginning I would write a good post and then worry about it getting lost in the archives.
Where will it go now? Who will read it?
I am learning that I can build on those "good posts".
I will create more. I will evolve. And I will learn from those "not so good posts" too.

Letting go of the seasons.
I find it hard to let go of summer. ......warm, golden, sunny bursting with colour.......flip-flops and shorts......BBQ's and swimming pools.... riding my bike. And yet, I've "listened" to other bloggers welcome the autumn with enthusiasm.
Once upon a time, many years ago as a child - I too welcomed autumn and even winter with it's promise of Christmas and snowflakes; building snowmen and sliding down snowy slopes.

I thank you my blogger friends for giving me these gifts; you've taught me to look upon the inevitable pathway to autumn with joy - not dread.

And so whether or not I blog about Caregiving or gardening or poetry or the weather or grandkids or seasons, it really doesn't matter. I've changed.

And Hubby has changed. He's better than he was all summer, but not as strong as he was earlier this year.
We 've had to face another one of those dreaded "steps down" ......which will be my post for next time.
Goodnight, dear bloggers - until the next post.....


beckie said...

Wendy, what a thoughtful and thought provoking post. I can't remember how I found you but am so glad I did! Your posts have brought me much joy the last few months. Seeing your lovely flowers and beautiful 'grands' and reading of your joys and sorrows-I have come to think of you as friend.

You are right about the connections or bonds we have made on blogger. I feel very close to several people. But you are also right about not living the 'real' life if we spend all our time on the computer. There has to be a happy medium...when I first started blogging, I wanted to know lots and lots of bloggers and now I find myself limiting the quantity in favor of the quality.

Amyway, thanks for sharing friend. :)

annette said...

Wendy, I love your posts. I cannot even remember how we found one another's blogs. Maybe through Living Proof's blog?

I am looking forward to fall for a break in heat and passing through the peak of hurricane season, fall to you means grey days, cold days, heaters, coats, etc.

Do you have fall and winter blooms up there, or will will have to wait until spring to see your beautiful flower pictures?

Your posts are always so poignant. I look forward to them. You are right, we have to live in the real world, communicate with our blogging friends, but live in the real world.

Blessings and peace to you and your husband.


Ruth said...

You are very wise. Through blogging you do find people with the same values and interests and they do become friends. But blog rolls become longer and reading and commenting can become very time consuming. I have to stop and go to work, but if I were home I would be tempted to be on the computer more. Sounds like you have grown personally through blogging but have your priorities straight.

Amy said...

Isn't it funny? I think so many of us place these blog restrictions on ourselves until we reach that epiphany: "Wait a minute. This is MY blog. I can post about whatever I want!"


I welcome autumn, but I welcome all your posts on ANY subject, too.

Shammickite said...

Blogging is an interesting hobby, I've "met" such vibrant and fascinating people, all around the world, how would we ever be able to do that without computers? But that's all it is... a hobby. Real Life has to be there somewhere! I enjoy whatever you write about, friends, family, personal feelings, feeding the ducks, whatever... it's all part of Real Life!

Bear Naked said...

This blogosphere is a wonderful sharing and caring place that we have found.
And yet, there is so much else out there in the "real" world that perhaps we might miss if our only priorities are blogging.
Rather than remaining stagnant, transitions are good for the mind and soul.

Bear((( )))

Wendy said...

Hi Beckie,
Thank you so much for your lovely comments. I don't remember how I found you either, but I just loved your happy, pink colours - and the flowers! Blogging became happy for me after I visited your blog - and I think of you as a true friend.
I also enjoy your posts about family, gardening and just whatever you are doing in the moment (even the little toad in your bathtub - LOL!

Wendy said...

Hi Annette,
I don't remember how we "met" either. I guess it doesn't matter. I am glad you enjoy my posts, as I enjoy yours, friend.
So you look forward to fall as a relief from heat and hurricanes. I can understand that.
Fall here is usually a melancholy time - the end of carefree summer days. But changing seasons bring new energy into our lives.
We do have autumn flowers - which are mostly just summer ones that are still around come fall. Our winters are so cold and full of snow that nothing survives. I posted some snow pics last winter and will do so this year too. Snow on an evergreen tree looks really pretty.
Blessings to you as well.

Wendy said...

Hi Ruth,
Thanks for stopping by. I always value your points of view and I enjoy your posts. I could easily spend more time at my computer and read many more wonderful posts, but I need to move my body - and I know you understand that!

Wendy said...

Hi Amy
I think it's the way we were brought up. You have to follow rules. You have to finish what you start. You have to do things the "right" way. Kinda knocks creativity out the window. So, you are right. There comes a point when you say "it's my blog and I'll blog what I want to".
Thanks Amy for your kind comments. I like visiting your blog too and I hope autumn brings easier breathing for your family.

Wendy said...

Hi Shammickite - you hit the head on the nail. It's all part of Real Life! And I am so glad to be living in an age and country where we can indulge in the internet. So much information is exchanged. So many interesting people....
I enjoy your posts too. Did anyone else see the shower head substituted for a lightbulb over the door?

Wendy said...

Hi BearNaked,
I find transitions scary sometimes, uncomfortable a lot of the time and yet you make a very good point - they're good for the mind and soul. Ha - I noticed you left out "body". My body is transitioning into post-menopause and it is not happy! Hormones up, hormones down, hormones fluctuating all over the place. Well, it sure is keeping me from being stagnant!! LOL!
Thanks for your fresh outlook on a time-worn issue.
Oh, and I'm always worrying about
"missing something" in life.

JeanMac said...

I love your posts - doesn't matter to me what the subject matter is - and you're so right, we do learn about one another and care as if we knew each other personally.
Keep on writing, Wendy.

naturewitch said...

Hi Wendy

What a great post! We all need to evolve and move in our lives, otherwise we just stagnate. And then you know what starts to happen . . .

It sounds like you are going through a real growth phase, which can be painful at times, but always worth it in the end.

I have often wondered how many of us who sit there blogging, not sure who will read our words, have experienced very bad health, either ourselves or a close loved one. Going through such an experience never leaves you untouched. You learn to distinguish between what's really important in life and what is not.

Maybe that's why so many of us are passionate about doing our little bit towards a sustainable future? Maybe that's why we all like to share our thoughts and see how others are going who are following a similar path?

Anyway, when I do get the time to visit your blog, I always enjoy the read. So write what you want when you want and I'm sure there'll be many happy to read.

love and light

Carin Fuchs said...

I've found you not to long ago but for the life of me, I don't remember through what blog! But I do know that I instantly liked your blog. I - seem - to know you through your blog so I think it is only fair if you know who I am and since I don't have a blog:
Name: Carin Fuchs
Age: almost 42
Height: 1.8 m
Weight: 70kg
Occupation: Legal administrator
I was born, grow up and still live as a - very very happy - single in Munich, Germany. I have no children or grandchildren that I know of. I am a - devoted - aunt for two lovley boys and a godmother for a fantastic 16 year old teenage-boy whom I know since his first day. I don't really form friendships easy but if I do you can count on me for the rest of your life.
I do have a few - hopefully not to many - faults, like for example I am stubborn and have a rather dark sense of humour and a - lets put it nice - rather 'creative' usage of the english language.
Well, that should be enough for a rough description of myself, everything else about me you'll 'see' through my comments at your blog and since I am going to visit your blog many times (and leave comments) you'll have ample opportunities to get to know me (whether you like it or not LOL LOL LOL).
I just love the opportunity the internet offers to meet (and care) about people like yourself and no matter what you are writing about, I know it is something I want to read.
Umarmung (=embracement or hug)

Q said...

Dear Wendy,
I enjoy visiting with you so very much. Thank you!
It is a transition time of year. It is a delight to get my sweaters out and put on my socks. My thoughts turn to soups.
For me blogging is about relationships. I share my relationship with nature. I enjoy being in relationship with you and other friends and like minded people. I can come see you at midnight too in my nightgown if I want. I love the freedom of blogging. My kids can come to my blog and see what Mom is up to. My nephew, who lives 8 hours away, told a group of people, over the weekend, "Coming to Corner is like coming to Aunt Sherry's kitchen table."
Coming to see you is also coming to a world of love and care. We may not chat on the phone but we do chat in comments! I look forwrd to stopping by, catching up on your news and getting a hug.
I am grateful you are here.

Wendy said...

Hi JeanMac - I love your posts too. Thanks for your support.

Hi Naturewitch - you are a wise woman. Yes, growth as painful as it is will bring a rainbow one day. I enjoy visiting your blog too.
Love and Light too!

Wendy said...

Hi Carin - nice to "meet" you at last! I don't know when you came aboard this ship either. It doesn't matter - I am glad you are here.
So, now we know a little bit more about you. Welcome - and I look forward to your comments!

Wendy said...

Dear Sherry, you have such a positive attitude. Thank you! Blogging is time-consuming, but as you pointed out - very freeing too. You can visit in your nightgown any time you want! LOL.

Socks, soup, sweaters - sounds like the beginning of another poem. Must give it some thought.
Thanks you for your kindness. I come to your blog for care and hugs too.
Love and Light

Beverly said...

Hi, Wendy,
I've been having similar thoughts about blogging, but I'm not nearly so eloquent as you are. I look forward to your posts and do enjoy reading each one, no matter the subject.

Rose said...

Wendy, what a wonderful post! I'm only sorry I didn't read it two days ago, but as you say, "real life" intervenes sometimes.

I have changed in many ways since I started blogging.I notice the "little things" I never saw before--a spider web, the spots on a butterfly, the way a fern unfurls as it grows--all because of bloggers like you. And I, too, have come to think of many of the people I read (almost) daily as friends.

I've noticed a change in your posts, too. You seem calmer and very in tune with nature, taking time to appreciate a sunset, for example. I'm sure life is not always calm and stress-free for you, but I hope that blogging has given you an outlet, something to help you cope with the stress.

Autumn has its own beauty, don't you think?

Wendy said...

Hi Beverly, thanks for stopping in and your kind words. I enjoy your blog too and like to hear what's going on in Florida. Blogging is a good way to communicate with those you wouldn't ordinarily come in contact with.

Wendy said...

Hi Rose, you hit that on the head. I do use blogging as an outlet for stress. And I quite understand where you are coming from too. I also have learned to appreciate spots on a butterfly and whereas I wouldn't give a thought to many of the bugs we see daily, now I stop and really look at them - and don't squash them either. LOL
Glad you stopped by. I consider you a friend too.

Perdita said...

You write very well.

Wendy said...

Thank you Perdita - I am glad you found me.